I fancy my colleague but I'm worried he thinks I'm workshy

DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE feelings for a workmate, but I’m worried he thinks I’m a shirker.

We have been working together for a few months and get on really well.
I am a 34-year-old woman and he is 32.


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We are both single and our company has no problem with office romances, as long as they are discreet.

But I have MS, which means that sometimes I’m not well enough to go to work.

You can’t see there’s anything wrong with me – it’s an invisible illness.

My colleague doesn’t know about my MS and I’m afraid he thinks I’m work-shy, or taking sickies, and it will put him off dating me.

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But telling him the truth will put him off too.

What do I do?

DEIDRE SAYS: There’s no reason to think he is judging you. If he’s a nice guy, he will understand you have personal reasons for your absences.

You are under no obligation to tell him about your MS until you are ready.

Why not ask him out for a coffee and get to know him better first?

My support pack Finding The Right Partner For You should help.

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