I'm an unpaid carer for my family and they never say thank you

DEAR DEIDRE: MY life is like Cinderella’s – but there is no fairy godmother or handsome prince to rescue me.

I have been caring for my mother and older sisters, who all have physical and mental health problems, since I was eight.


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I am a woman of 24 and do all the housework, shopping, cooking and washing.

I sort the bills, pick up their medication, put out the bins . . . the list feels endless. It’s a life of drudgery and it’s making me depressed.

Nobody ever thanks me for what I do. They just insult me and put me down.

I have no life of my own and nobody will help.

I have been to my GP and she has written to adult social services but they say there is nothing they can do.

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I am an unpaid live-in carer. What should I do?

DEIDRE SAYS: You have fallen through the cracks in the social care system and it is no wonder you are depressed.

You are a young woman who deserves a life of your own. Please contact Carers UK (carersuk.org, 0808 808 7777, [email protected] carersuk.org).

My support pack Help For Carers has more information and sources of support.

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