Mother breastfed her daughters until they were four and seven

Mother-of-two who tandem breastfed her daughters in public until they were four and seven was told it was ‘child cruelty’ by strangers but refuses to let critics sexualise the act

  • Sophie Mei Lan, 32, breastfed her daughters, now eight and five, until last year
  • Single mother from Wakefield said she won’t allow critics to stop the natural act
  • Said strangers called it ‘child cruelty’ and told her to ‘put it away’ while in public
  • Only stopped because she split with her partner, meaning the girls now spend breastfeeding time at their father’s house  

A mother-of-two who tandem breastfed her daughters until they were four and seven says she wants to normalise feeding older children in public.

Sophie Mei Lan, 32, breastfed her daughters, Arianna, now five, and Jasmine, now eight, in public until last year despite being told to ‘put it away’ and that the act was ‘child cruelty.’

The single mother from Wakefield, West Yorkshire said she won’t stop encouraging breastfeeding children of school age, and says critics are just sexualising the act.

Sophie Mei Lan, 32, breastfed her daughters, Arianna  now five, (right) and Jasmine, now, eight (left), in public until last year, despite being told to ‘put it away’ and that it was ‘child cruelty’

The single mother from Wakefield, West Yorkshire said she aimed to normalise breastfeeding and refused to allow critics to stop her by sexualising the act. She is pictured with Jasmine (left) and Arianna (centre)

She added that Jasmine would ask for milk both before and after her school day and never struggled to suckle up until she was seven.

‘I’ve always aimed to normalise breastfeeding so I would do it in public regardless of the looks I would get from others’ Sophie, who works as a vlogger said. 

‘I did feel more embarrassed as the girls got older but it’s not my problem that people have decided to sexualise it in a way that makes it seem “abnormal”, because it’s completely natural to breastfeed.

‘I had no idea how to stop breastfeeding and decided to go with the flow when Jasmine still asked for it as she got older.

Sophie said: ‘I had no idea how to stop breastfeeding and deciding to go with the flow when Jasmine still asked for it as she got older’. She is pictured breastfeeding four-year-old Arianna


Sophie said: ‘I normalise breastfeeding so I would do it in public regardless of the looks I would get from others’. She is pictured breastfeeding four-year-old Arianna

Sophie only decided to stop feeding her daughters last year after a difficult break up because the girls now spend the time they would be breastfeeding with their Dad

‘Luckily I liked wearing tops that were easy to breastfeed in.’

Sophie only decided to stop feeding her daughters last year after a difficult break up.

‘The girls now spend a proportion of their time with their dad and wouldn’t be able to breastfeed every day.

‘I would encourage other mums to do it for as long as myself as long as they feel right for them and their child,’ she continued.

Sophie, pictured with Arianna, added she would encourage other mums to do it for as long as she did, as long as they feel it’s right for them and their child


Sophie (left with Arianna, feeding, right with Arianna and Jasmine) added the worst backlash included strangers stating that breastfeeding a seven and four-year-old was ‘child abuse.’

Sophie added the worst backlash included strangers telling her that breastfeeding her older children was ‘child abuse’.

‘I have always been open about breastfeeding online and I have received a lot of comments over the years both on my social media platforms and when out in public.

‘I have done a lot of research around breastfeeding, and the natural weaning age is actually when a child’s adult teeth come through not when they’re a baby.

‘I have done a lot of research around breastfeeding and the natural weaning age is actually when a child’s adult teeth come through not when they’re a baby,’ Sophie explained. She is pictured feeding Arianna

Despite both of Sophie’s daughters no longer feeding, the mum-of-two says she would encourage breastfeeding children of the same age if it’s right for them. She is pictured with Arinna (left) and Jasmine (right)

‘I enjoyed challenging backlash in the street because I was interested to know why I should “put it away” or how in any way it was “child cruelty”.’

Despite both of Sophie’s daughters no longer feeding, the mum-of-two says she would encourage breastfeeding children of the same age if it’s right for them.

She added: ‘Over the years breastfeeding has saved us loads of money not to mention how much it helped with bonding.

‘I wasn’t a natural breast feeder. It felt alien to me at first.

ophie breast feeding her daughter Arianna. Despite being on the receiving end of cruel comments, Sophie said she enjoyed challenging backlash in the street

Sophie said breastfeeding for seven years also helped with her own mental health and she felt she was doing right by her girls. Pictured, Sophie with Arianna

‘It also helped massively with my mental health becauses it made me feel like I was doing the best possible job for my girls.

‘I wouldn’t say that other women should breastfeed for as long as I did, but do just do it for as long as it works for you.

‘Even though I didn’t initially want to stop last year, I am now pleased to have my body back, and it’s nice that the girls just want a cuddle now rather than milk.’

‘Even though I didn’t initially want to stop last year, I am now pleased to have my body back and it’s nice that the girls just want a cuddle now rather than milk,’ Sophie said. She is pictured with Arianna

Sophie is currently working on a children’s book called Mama’s Milk which showcases older children breastfeeding and tandem feeding. She is pictured with Jasmine and Arianna, who is being breast fed

‘I want to try and normalise breastfeeding from an early age by intruding Mama’s Milk to their literature’ Sophie explained. She is pictured with Jasmine (left) and Arianna (right)

Sophie is working on a children’s book called Mama’s Milk, which showcases older children breastfeeding and tandem feeding.

She added: ‘I’m currently working with a graphic designer who is putting together the book.

‘I want to try and normalise breastfeeding from an early age by introducing Mama’s Milk to their literature.

‘I’m hoping to release the book next month [August] as part of ‘world breastfeeding week and hopefully it’ll be a series rather than just a one off.

In 2017, Sophie appeared on This Morning to defend her decision to breastfeed her children. 

‘Once I had Arianna I thought I would stop feeding Jasmine, but as soon as I’d had Arianna, Jasmine wanted to latch on.

‘So as I always do with parenting, I just went with the flow with what the girls want and what their needs are,’ the parenting blogger explained to presenters Phillip Schofield and Holly Willoughby. 

She said, the process ‘anchors’ her and makes her feel closer to her children, but while some watching at home commended her approach, others said the children were too old to be nursing, branding it ‘gross’.  

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