My new heart valve has ruined my sex life – I can't get an erection

DEAR DEIDRE: I FEEL so much better since I had a new heart valve – except when it comes to sex.

I now struggle to get an erection and don’t last longer than a minute.

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I’m a man of 57 and happily married. We had a great sex life until I started to experience chest pain.

I went to see my GP and got a referral to a cardiologist. I needed an operation to replace a faulty heart valve.

I’ve got more energy now and I thought I’d have more stamina in the bedroom.
But the opposite is true.

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Sex has gone from a ten out of ten to a two out of ten. I’m getting frustrated and worry that my wife is too.

Can you help me?

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DEIDRE SAYS: I hope so. If you are on medication, this may affect you getting an erection.

But you can find great advice and more information through the British Heart Foundation (, 0300 330 3311).

Don’t feel embarrassed about calling them. A healthy sex life is good for everyone, both mentally and physically.

My support pack Want To Last Longer? may help you too.

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